Thickness

What is “thick?” For some, “thick” is an expression used to describe a young woman who has a big butt, big thighs or a big chest. For others, it might just be a nice way of saying, “she’s fat.” In essence, we are talking about young girls who are built like grown women. In any case, this expression, along with so many others, continues to categorize, define and limit the body image of young black girls. I think the idea of “thickness” is expressed in music (and of course music videos), movies and in day to day life and interaction between men and women. In my opinion, the term “thickness” walks a fine line between the actual and preferred body type among young black girls. It is true, many girls are built like grown women…and they can’t help that. However, it is also true that many young girls want to be “thick.” Why is “thick” the preferred body type? Does being thick garner positive or negative responses?

It is interesting how popular body types change just as much as any other fad or craze. In the early 90’s, the concept of thick was not popular. In fact, skinny was the preferred body type. Who knows what it will be 5 years from now. Point being, it is unhealthy to hop on these “body-bandwagons.” It forces us young women into the habit of not appreciating our authentic body types and places us in an environment where it is difficult to truly love ourselves. Some women even go to the extent of getting breast and butt implants thinking it will get them more attention from others. Check out Jill Scott’s piece, “The Thickness.”(Audio Only)

“The Thickness” is an account of a young girl who is obviously thick, yet unaware of her self-worth. In her powerful way, Jill Scott sheds light on the male perspective, which sees this body type as an invitation to having sex. But uniquely, she also sheds light on the role of the young girl in her poem. She speaks on self hatred, shame and degradation that led this 14 year old girl to exploiting and objectifying her body. Her role is so powerful, because she portrayed the type of woman she wanted to be seen as, thinking it might bring her comfort, attention or an escape to a better world. But we quickly learn, that’s not the case. Jill Scott does an amazing job teaching us a few lessons: (1) To different degrees, there is no good ending to always wanting to be something you’re not, (2) How important it is to hold ourselves accountable and be aware of what we wear and how we present ourselves to society, and (3) the responsibility that we all have as women to empower each other and serve as a model for others.

Quick Tips on Being Thick

To all young girls who want to be thick: Be careful for what you wish for. Wanting to look like Beyonce or J Lo might seem harmless, even fun…but do understand where this can lead to. Also, get in tune with your feelings and figure out where exactly these desires are coming from.

To all young girls who are thick: Know that if you are inappropriately flaunting you assets, you might get an inappropriate response. Appreciate who you are, but be mindful of the way you dress and your overall body language. For example, if you have a huge butt or a big chest don’t walk around the mall wearing super short shorts or low cut tops and wonder why your potentially being thought of as provocative or shallow. By no means am I suggesting that it’s best to cover yourself up every time you leave the house. Nor am I justifying rude and disrespectful behavior among younger men and whoever else makes judgment. However, I am saying that we as young women have to be accountable for our actions and the manner in which we present ourselves to society.

--Kyle C. Holland

Brownstone Team

*For more on accepting and appreciating yourself, read Loving Me by guest blogger, Brandelyn N. Castine .